Eating out ....

Here's the comment I read in one site… "I have been eating like its going out of fashion for the past week.”
Thought it to be funny… sharing it :)

Today at office we had been to a collegues send off lunch today... Lunch was a buffet at new place called Red Bean near office...

The way I was piling up stuff on my plate, I was thinking how correct the above statement seems from my perspective... Dunno what my collegues thought but they too were piling up the same way.. :D

For more survival tips on how to eat in a buffet check out here. :)

"Friends"

Sometimes friends are rude… Sometimes friends really want to show that they are the smart ones..Sometimes they are caustic..
Or maybe there is problem with me who always homes in such so called “friends”….

If they are so..then are they friends?

What brought this post…

For a few days, I have had some free time…either waiting for a late running train.. waiting for someone or some work to be done…
During this idle period, I have always thought of ringing up someone whom I have not rung up in some time and maybe just talk…
No, I am not talking about immediate family, spouse, etc…. They will be more than willing to talk to me ..
However just to chat up on topics with and put rather than only hear thoughts, opinions, viewpoints..

Then I got thinking that for a person with HUGE contact list and even more friends/acquaintances on orkut … I don’t seem to having that many friends..
What I seem to be having are more or less acquaintances… Hmm Not so good I guess.

It does not matter that I don’t have any friends to fall back on ..I have family for that …
However it does feel bad that there is no extensive network where one can share stuff , judge and be judged … and be a sort of support which is bi-directional..
i.e I am not the only one providing support or motivating but also receiving some support or pep talk when required.
Be in touch irrespective of the geographical location… and work commitments.
And no I don’t mean sending email or calling everyday by staying in touch… Just in general be in touch..Even once a month , six months or a year.
But when we talk, write the conversations or thoughts should just flow.
Comfort and support can be shared, propagated and plus provide a listening ear to one and all…

I am tired of always being the listening ear, motivator, sane one and trying to make others think positively about their situation .
So much so that sometimes all this negativity just remains with me and manifests when I am with my close family and people end up thinking I am so critical.

Today spoke with two of them and I guess if I continue getting irritated then better not to have “friends”
Categories of friends I have had :

People who chat up after a long time and generally want to show that they are doing better than you in a way belittling you…(Ok..But I don’t need your approval to lead my life)
People who will only remember you when something is going bad in their life and want you as an emotional anchor..(Don’t mind putting things in perspective but remember me in ur good times too)
People who are out right rude to you but will never apologize or break off friendship.. (Ok.. I can understand you are having a bad day but not every day your interacting with me)
People who will remember you at their time of need but forget you when good things happen to you…( Fine but then don’t pretend that it is me who has forgotten.)
People who will act like a wise owl and always tell that they are the only ones facing that situation or they are the only one having some knowledge.. (I agree with your points but give a benefit of doubt that my points might also be valid)


Nowadays I have realized that I really cannot put up with people like this and probably won’t hesitate to say so if need be.. Better to keep myself away from potential feeling bad.
But it still hurts me too…
This is just a vent I guess .. but that leaves me with very few good people whom I can converse with but who for some logistical, geographical or personal reasons cannot contact all the time..
I guess I am not so good at attracting the right kind of friends..

Hmm…. Need to think more and do more on this :)
i.e Not put up with unnecessary “friends”.

Take care,
Tina :)

Fortune for Today...

Today's fortune: Try and fail, but don't fail to try

Nice to read but difficult to implement.... I so need to prep up my trying esp in professional and yes also personal front...

Key here is : Don't fail to try...
Have to remember that..
:)

Smile to light up ur life

Today, I realised how profound the statement is ..
" A smile can light up the face "..
After a long time met up someone and smile perked up everything she said to me ...
Atleast brought out the positives in life and allowed me to refocuss on
"God's in his Heaven n All's right with the world!"
Things will work out.....i.e eventually ..

A wonderful day... :)

Its a wonderful day... Just something that you keep it save in your memories..
And a nice one to look back on ...
Just remembering a good time and chill out on best times ahead...
Awoke to get ready to go church ... Sleepy wishes were passed..
Got the coffee ready and sipped in the wonderful morning tranquility..
Spent time draping saree..(wearing it after couple of months hence the time factor)
Just finished 5 mins before the start time of the mass.
Warm wishes from the near and dear ones ... And yea we raced to be in time for the morning mass.
Breakfast followed in 'Taj Mahal restaurant' ... a place we hadn't visited in a while..
After which went to supermarket ..You bought milk and I did not want to spoil any surprise (not that i needed to worry about it) so was attending the wishes on phone...
After which on reaching home ...came the flowers :)
Nice to receive flowers ...though I guess I first worried about the expense... :)
But sometimes should give a miss to trivial issues of cost when the thought behind it is comforting :)
Got some more calls with some more warm wishes and some thoughtful messages.. Nice to be remembered.
Black forest cake followed ...after which there was not much appetite for lunch...
So cancelled plan of going out for lunch.

Instead had a light lunch ( if you could call it light) ...phulkas, egg roast, onion tomato raita plus pickle and yesterday's mango dal..

Wore the new salwar kurta for which we searched quite a bit for matching aqua marine duppata..
Finally found that in "Fab India" when we went to shop yesterday as ur treat...

Then you humoured me by taking me to "Walden".....Checked out books and bought some..
Took part in a lucky dip..
Bought some plum cakes for taking to office tomorrow to distribute it to team..

Then we were doing time pass browsing "Home Town" wondering how to redeem the Rs 25 parking ticket..
But got the news that dad's wallet was picked in his ride on the local train to catch the passenger.
However no major harm as no debit or credit cards though caused some anxious moments both here and back home.

Then when all was fine browsed through "LOFT"... just to check out and in search of the elusive pair of shoes... However nothing worth the price.
Left for " Our Place "..but we lost or rather did not remember the turns and gave up going there for dinner..

Instead went to "Uttupura" and had parotta and kadala and chicken curry ...:) I know cheap and modest treat but what to do since we could not find "Our Place".. Maybe that will be for some other time ..

Came back.. perused the books..got a call regarding the dip and saw the new serial "Custom Made for Vir Sanghvi"....
Nothing exceptional but a wonderful day...
Thanks for humouring me to go to all the shops esp on a Sunday evening ..

Wonderful yet simple though tiring way to spend a birthday :)

P.S(8th Aug 2009) : We won the Rs 1000 gift coupon at Walden ..Splurged today on books again :)