Eating out ....

Here's the comment I read in one site… "I have been eating like its going out of fashion for the past week.”
Thought it to be funny… sharing it :)

Today at office we had been to a collegues send off lunch today... Lunch was a buffet at new place called Red Bean near office...

The way I was piling up stuff on my plate, I was thinking how correct the above statement seems from my perspective... Dunno what my collegues thought but they too were piling up the same way.. :D

For more survival tips on how to eat in a buffet check out here. :)

"Friends"

Sometimes friends are rude… Sometimes friends really want to show that they are the smart ones..Sometimes they are caustic..
Or maybe there is problem with me who always homes in such so called “friends”….

If they are so..then are they friends?

What brought this post…

For a few days, I have had some free time…either waiting for a late running train.. waiting for someone or some work to be done…
During this idle period, I have always thought of ringing up someone whom I have not rung up in some time and maybe just talk…
No, I am not talking about immediate family, spouse, etc…. They will be more than willing to talk to me ..
However just to chat up on topics with and put rather than only hear thoughts, opinions, viewpoints..

Then I got thinking that for a person with HUGE contact list and even more friends/acquaintances on orkut … I don’t seem to having that many friends..
What I seem to be having are more or less acquaintances… Hmm Not so good I guess.

It does not matter that I don’t have any friends to fall back on ..I have family for that …
However it does feel bad that there is no extensive network where one can share stuff , judge and be judged … and be a sort of support which is bi-directional..
i.e I am not the only one providing support or motivating but also receiving some support or pep talk when required.
Be in touch irrespective of the geographical location… and work commitments.
And no I don’t mean sending email or calling everyday by staying in touch… Just in general be in touch..Even once a month , six months or a year.
But when we talk, write the conversations or thoughts should just flow.
Comfort and support can be shared, propagated and plus provide a listening ear to one and all…

I am tired of always being the listening ear, motivator, sane one and trying to make others think positively about their situation .
So much so that sometimes all this negativity just remains with me and manifests when I am with my close family and people end up thinking I am so critical.

Today spoke with two of them and I guess if I continue getting irritated then better not to have “friends”
Categories of friends I have had :

People who chat up after a long time and generally want to show that they are doing better than you in a way belittling you…(Ok..But I don’t need your approval to lead my life)
People who will only remember you when something is going bad in their life and want you as an emotional anchor..(Don’t mind putting things in perspective but remember me in ur good times too)
People who are out right rude to you but will never apologize or break off friendship.. (Ok.. I can understand you are having a bad day but not every day your interacting with me)
People who will remember you at their time of need but forget you when good things happen to you…( Fine but then don’t pretend that it is me who has forgotten.)
People who will act like a wise owl and always tell that they are the only ones facing that situation or they are the only one having some knowledge.. (I agree with your points but give a benefit of doubt that my points might also be valid)


Nowadays I have realized that I really cannot put up with people like this and probably won’t hesitate to say so if need be.. Better to keep myself away from potential feeling bad.
But it still hurts me too…
This is just a vent I guess .. but that leaves me with very few good people whom I can converse with but who for some logistical, geographical or personal reasons cannot contact all the time..
I guess I am not so good at attracting the right kind of friends..

Hmm…. Need to think more and do more on this :)
i.e Not put up with unnecessary “friends”.

Take care,
Tina :)